Positive or Negative racism...

I'm beginning to think and agree that sometimes races create racism themselves, even if it isn't intentional.

I went to get Chinese food for my family which involved about 5 different orders [buffet style] on the spot, not even a call in. So obviously I wasn't going to be in a rush and obviously I would be waiting for a while. So everyone is getting their food first, which I'm not complaining, just patiently waiting quietly on the side. I even help this white lady order because she couldn't think of the name of the chicken she wanted [orange chicken] and she was having a hard time communicating with the Asian women whose English was only at a less than decent level. So I was thanked, whatever...blah blah blah
So then I'm still waiting...still not complaining, and she nudges me [the Asian woman] and says "This for you, for long wait" [Now I'm drinking a soda...btw I stopped drinking soda...but now I'm drinking this free soda]
So now when my food comes I also ask how much are fortune cookies, and she proceeds to give me some for free. Even though they clearly say 25 cents.

Now I go home and tell my mom what happened, she laughs because she thinks it's amazing how I can get better treatment than her in places like that. Others would include nail salons, and anything where Asians run it.
[Is it weird that sometimes I feel weird going to nail salons, because I'm pretty much the only Asian as a customer?]

My Asian side kicks in when I do my friend's eye brows, paint their nails, color their hair [even cut], draw out tattoos, or pretty much anything I can do, is playfully designated from my Korean roots. No I'm not offended, apparently my alter ego [Kim Soo He(e)] takes over from time to time.

It's not the first and most likely not the last time that I will or have gotten free things, or special treatment because of either 3 reasons if not all combined:
1. I'm decent looking
2. I'm a female
3. Because I'm Asian

Even in situations where there aren't other Asians involved, I can still get by easily with a lot of things.
Now everything I have just said, can be looked at in a few ways:
1. It's Asian on Asian appreciation
2. Maybe people who aren't Asian feel this is unfair and are looking at it in a racist way
3.Pretty girls get free things
4. It has nothing to do with race and some people are just nice.

All of these are true in their own sense. I just find it funny because whether you choose to view it from one perspective or another, we're constantly building a wall of separation, blindly.

I'm just wondering if, as a society, are we creating for ourselves what we sometimes often fight against...