to judge or not to judge...

What defines judgment?

I may not like somebody, not because of who they are exactly, but maybe more about what they can or cannot bring to the table. The table in this case is my life.

I don't want to come off as the biggest bitch, but for the people that know me, they know I have no problem expressing how I feel at any given moment.

The way I grew up has made me adapt to the fact that no one can look out for you like your own self. Therefore I will follow up with saying that in this lifetime, the only one given, there are people who will expect you to fail, try to make you fail, and help you to not fail. Majority of this clan is against you, and I'm not preaching a 'the-world-is-out-to-get-you' tune either. I'm simply saying that anyone who isn't on the same level mentally isn't worth wasting time with and then there's nothing they can offer me. And with that I have no disdain for them as a person, it's just that if you can't help me become a better person or influence me with positive vibes or an intellectual conversation then what exactly are you doing with your life?

I also will add that if at any given point I come across people who I can help and elevate them to another level [higher of course] then I will do so as long as I'm welcomed with open arms and little resistance. Because people who don't want help, or want to continue where they are, cannot be worried about on a constant basis. Life is already stressful enough as it is, why carry unnecessary wrinkles on your face... Sure, let's keep in touch, great. But I'm not going to let you or anyone hold me back from becoming the person I plan and know I can be. Some people need the motivation and need the extra push to be who they are, and I am all for that, because that's how you make yourself a better person, it's how you make a better world...by surrounding yourself with positive people. What better way to make the world a better place by spreading the knowledge of success and upping the ante for everyone!

Seriously though, does this label me as a pre-judgmental person?
The thing is, I left VA for many reasons, mainly to expand my opportunities. Many of the people and things I left behind [not forgotten] are stuck in the past, 'living the dream', or simply useless. I'm not trying to put anyone behind or down, but it comes a time where you realize what is available to you, and what is the best for you. Seeing this I knew I had to get away in order to grow. I'm not sitting here saying that I'm better than anyone, because I do believe that everyone has the ability to become anything and beyond. The thing that separates us all is the drive within ourselves to want to make ourselves better people. Even when I come back to visit my home town area I can't help but miss NYC, and it's because in that beautiful city of mine, I'm not restricted to the amount of new people or new things and opportunities I can welcome into my life. When I go home, it's the same people, with the same problems, same situations, same thing different day.
I just feel in a lot of situations, I have a lot riding on myself with what I carry and have accomplished in my life so far, that I just can't risk it getting in trouble with cops, or doing stupid things. I know the people here, and that's why I am the way I am.

I'm not saying I hate anyone, I'm just saying that smart [common sense] people and people who want the best for themselves use the opportunities and take advantage of situations at hand. And that's why I can't help but be drawn to those types of people, there's a certain energy[if you have felt it, then you know what I'm talking about]...because they have the drive and vibe of a positive and not to mention healthy lifestyle.

That's the secret people...surround yourself with what you want to become. Because the only way you can truly change and become a better person [in my opinion, which has worked for me so far] is to see where you are going and what you want for your future, simply put...

you can't move ahead if you keep looking back.